blocking a blog does not prevent them from being able to reblog from you though……………………..
“XD”
#PPL HAVING SOMETHING AGAINST THAT FUCKING EMOTE MAKES ME LAUGH SO HRAD
OH MY GOD SAME
I ACTUALLY HAD SOMEONE TELL ME NOT TO EVER USE IT IN CONVERSATION WITH THEM
TRUE FUCKING STORY
Maybe that person took personal issue with that emote because of a very deeply personal experience that happened to him, and they asked you not to use it because it was triggering and made them feel gross every time they saw it used anywhere so soon after the event happened, and if you’d asked them about it instead of guess that it was out of personal contempt for the emote - which they did have, but wouldn’t tell someone how they could type over it - they would have been happy to explain.
Just a personal hunch.
Bitchy tone aside, could you please stop talking about me on your blog? I don’t know why you’re still saying these things about me after we agreed not to, and if you’re just venting or are actually trying to hurt me and alienate my friends, but it DOES hurt. A lot. I have not had ANYTHING bad to say about you to say about you, either to mutual friends, myself, or people who don’t even know you, and I wouldn’t. You haven’t made the best choices and neither have I, but I respect you and understand that any issues we have are our issues alone, to be discussed and resolved between us. I’m not angry - just disappointed and hurt.
Obviously, I can’t stop you from posting what you want to post, but posting all of this in public and being so absorbed (I don’t know that you are, but it gives me that impression) that you can’t even keep yourself from saying something every single time something reminds you of something shitty I did isn’t healthy and isn’t going to do a thing to help you move on. Different people have different coping methods, but passive-aggression is pretty much universally terrible for managing anger and resolving conflict.
I’ve had a lot of things I’ve been meaning to say that I’ve been waiting on saying, but given that this much time has passed and this hasn’t gotten any better, I’m going to be sending you an e-mail in hopes of resolving some of this. I can’t stop anyone from being hurt over things that have already happened, but I’d like to try and avoid people hurting any more over this in the future.
Liveblogging my hatred of cis people cuz I’m the best/meanest/worst
I think part of the reason I have so much affectational hatred and disgust of cis people is that I spend a lot of my life trying to be cisgender or pretending to be cisgender, and so I’m pretty intimately aware of the mechanisms of “cis-ness” / cis positionality. [Plz excuse the pretentious phrase; I’m super tired].
Like, I know what it means to have cis privilege because I conditionally have cis privilege and I sometimes intentionally maintain my cis privilege. And it’s gross, it’s terrifying, it removes you a little bit from your own humanity.
Like, I cannot even tell you how many times a cis person who works in the LGBT community has confessed to me about their out-right hostile transphobia because they thought we were on the same side. Not because I said something cissexist, necessarily, but because they think I’m cis. And they know that part of cis-ness is the need to normalize yourself the expense of the Other. So obviously I’m going to be receptive to their nonchalant hatefullness, right?
Like, one woman who runs a group dedicated, in part, to addressing trans health disparities stopped me mid-sentence because she wanted me to confirm that another person’s pronouns were “weird.” Another person told me confidently that it was okay for him to see trans people as their “real” gender until they get “the surgery.” These are people who interact with trans people on a regular basis. These are people who are intentionally deceiving trans people into working with them, socializing with them, feeling safe with them, and sometimes even entering into some kind of relationship with them. Cis-ness is about the solipsism and fundamental lack of empathy that leads you to always be looking out for your own convenience, status and control first. Cis-ness is about letting trans people’s personhood come in at a distant second.
I definitely know what you’re talking about. I’m binary-identified, and I pass as cis, so I run into that talk. There are even times where people feel at liberty to be blatantly transphobic with me even when they know I’m trans because I “seem normal” and they’re only talking about “those other trans people”.
A lot of cis people seem to think that “being an ally” means “not blatantly wanting us dead”. The idea that they’re doing us huge special favors calling us the right name and pronoun and not killing us is fairly popular… A lot of the self-proclaimed-allies I’ve spoken to think along the lines of “well, I think you should have basic human rights. That’s a lot of work for me. I deserve a cookie. Oh and BTW I’m still right about everything and you can’t call yourself ‘x’ or do ‘y’ because it makes me uncomfortable. I have these made up rules about how gender and sex and bodies work based on my experience as a cis person and they must apply to everyone always”
So… Yeah. I hate cis folk too.
Being CAFAB, cis-passing and white, I sometimes forget how justified this kind of hatred is.
The best is when cis people call “cis” a slur then turn around and say the “t” word and try to say “It’s just the word for them! It’s not offensive!” It’s my favorite.
Since I’ve gotten a few questions about this
Since I can’t reply or message I’m reblogging??
Can you please unblock me so I can talk to you? There’s some things I need to say and it can’t really wait and this isn’t fair for me not to be able to say anything.
When you block someone on Tumblr, you block their IP, not that account. Also, you can only send asks and such from your root account. I can’t send asks from this account. Or anons. Or anything. Please unblock me. ; ;
…pretend I reblogged that to the right account.
Since I’ve gotten a few questions about this
Since I can’t reply or message I’m reblogging??
Can you please unblock me so I can talk to you? There’s some things I need to say and it can’t really wait and this isn’t fair for me not to be able to say anything.
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bitch where you live
the yellow state in the northeast
wait shit what
new hampshire is a state!?!?!?!??!
TECHNICALLY, yes….
Moose in my backyard a few days ago. But moose are cool. They’re big and kinda dumb and rly cute.
How can you be so sure of your gender? Don’t you realize what a big decision you’re making? By not transitioning, you’ll live your entire life in the gender you were assigned when you were born. How can you be so sure the doctor was right? This is an irreversible decision, you know: you only get one life.
Dear the Internet,
There is a difference between fetishizing/appropriation of trans* people and thinking a dude with a vagina getting nailed is hot.
The difference is that the first is really really gross, and the second is true, and it is hot because sex in general is pretty hot and that’s not something that’s exclusive to any gender identity or means of self-gratification.
We tend to enjoy fucking, too. And people portraying us as something sensual and hot just like the rest of the population? I call that progress. The only thing I call appropriation is, y’know, actual appropriation.
